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Showing posts with label TV. Show all posts

The Mirrors of Fiction

If I were ever to write a book, I think that the hardest part would be to create a diverse collection of characters that didn't reflect me. It would be difficult to not make a hero character that had my red hair, irresistible charm, and incredibly handsome features! Haha, I'm just kidding. It is true, however, that the characters that I created would be highly influenced by my thoughts, experience, worldview, and personality traits. I wonder how various authors see their characters and how they develop them. Do the authors ever see themselves in the books they write?

I know that I often find myself in the books that I'm reading. In the movies and TV shows I find myself clinging to characters and feeling as if I have some sort of tie to that character. The question is, why? I wondered for a time if perhaps my seeing myself in characters of a book was merely my self-centered nature coming out...me thinking of myself more than I should, but no. That is not the case. Within characters of fictitious origin and through their action or inaction we can discover ourselves. We can learn about who we are, who we are not, and who we wish we were.

As a part of my recent desire to be self-aware I decided to engage in a little exercise. I began analyzing  my childhood favorites and began to search for answers as to why I loved them so much. What I found was very interesting. The following is a list of some favorite characters that I have held most dear and/or found connection with over the course of my life:

  • Luke Skywalker (If you don't know what movie he's in...just stop reading and go educate yourself)
  • Obi-Wan Kenobi (Episode I version)
  • Yoda (Duuuuhhhh)
  • Gandalf (LoTR)
  • Elrond (Also, LoTR)
  • Eragon (Inheritance series)
  • Raven (Teen Titans)
  • Batman (but not Bruce Wayne...which I find interesting)
  • William Herondale (The Infernal Devices series)
  • Clary Fairchild (The Mortal Instruments series)
  • Pretty much any of the main characters from Avatar: the Last Airbender (each one for a different reason)
Many of the characters I liked came from the desire to be wise and be a person others turn to for support and guidance (hence Yoda and Gandalf), while others seemed to embody the loneliness and the feeling of darkness within myself while desiring to be a person of light and good (Raven, Batman, William, etc.) and others still represented my desire to be someone that rose out of weakness and mediocrity to become a person of honor and a protector of life and justice (Clary, Luke, Eragon, etc). 

Additionally, I found that I have a high view of words and language...almost to the point of believing that my words actually hold supernatural power (a doctrine often found in charismatic churches that I found appealing). This admiration for language and power in words only reinforced my love for the characters Gandalf, Raven, Clary, William, and Eragon. 

If you don't know these characters that's ok. While it would be easier for you to grasp an understanding of me through the knowledge of these fictitious entities, they are not necessary. So what about you? What can you glean from exploring your own thoughts and emotions concerning books, movies, and the like? What can you achieve from taking the time to pick apart your favorite heroes and villains? Think of the cartoon characters you associated yourself with as a child; of the books you read and the stories you most loved and the ones you most hated. Why did you like them? Why did you hate them? You might find out something about yourself that you never knew. 


It could be something as broad as something that encompasses human nature as a whole, or something a precise as unique trait that makes up who you are as an individual.

Through the creations of artists, play-writers, and authors we can answer the questions of identify and become self-aware in ways that would otherwise be harder or even impossible. I believe we can look past the shallow feelings of "like" or "dislike" and catch a glimpse or ourselves through the mirrors that are stories and fairy tales, and even through historical events and people long deceased.

Peace be with you,

Stephen

Drama, Drama, Drama...

It seems like the majority of television these days if filled with shows that are just flooded with drama. Between shows like "Secret Life of the American Teenager" and "Degrassi", how are people expected to have healthy and stable emotions? Apart from that it appears that drama levels are on the rise in the lives of every day Americans and have been steadily doing so for decades.


When I say "drama", I am not talking about plays or suspense..I'm talking about situations blowing up over nothing. Things like someone crying because their "boo" got the wrong colored flowers (which is and OBVIOUS sign that they don't care), a word misread in a text message and someone immediately ending a relationship without talking it out, or a sibling being deleted off of Facebook because he/she invited him/her to take a parent to diner without actually being involved in the planning process (totally know someone who had this happen to them). No, i'm talking about the DRAMA that we used to see just in high schools and in middle schools, but now infiltrates as early as preschool to as late as eternity.


My own life is not void of this terrible disease. In fact I have a couple members of my extended family that grow the stuff, smoke it in a pipe, and then blow it in your face. If you just understood my metaphor, then you know how "suffocating" it can be to be around people who breed drama. My purpose in saying all this is not to complain, but to ask a question?


Why all the drama?! 
Why the emotional and relational instability?
How should we be dealing with it?


Lets start with the first question.


"Why all the drama?" When I think about all the situations that I have endured that have yielded high concentrations of drama or when I think about those people that I know to be drama-breeders, there are a certain list of characteristics that come to mind. The list is as follows:


  • Pride
  • Shame
  • Insecurity
  • Immaturity
  • Self-centered 
These are the things I see most, and logically I have to come to the conclusion that there is some sort of relationship between these characteristics and the production of drama just by the sheer reality that both coincide together. Can these characteristic be present without the production of drama? Sure. Can drama be produced without these characteristics? Mmmm...maybe, but not according to my experiences nor by any extent of my ability to reason. To answer my first question, I believe that the root of "drama" is SIN. 

"NOW HOLD UP!" Now for those of you reading this who might jump on the fact that I listed "shame" and would like to point out that it is not sin...I would have to say that you are right. Shame is not a sin per say. It is, however, a distortion of our mental and emotional health that was not meant to be a part of our lives and is often rooted in pride. So no, it is not a sin listed in the Bible, but it not to be something that is intimately a part of our lives. We will experience shame, but it is arguably "sinful" to live in it. 

"Why the emotional and relational instability?" Given the various causes for drama, is it any wonder why it is so burdensome? These particular sins, mixed with the emotions that come with them and with drama, are very hard on a relationship, and often lead to the termination of friendship. In some cases even families are torn apart. As a former youth ministry intern, I found that most of the kids who were drama-filled, experienced a lot of drama in their homes. Teens expressed the great heartache and difficulty when facing family drama. When we live like the world owes us or based around ourselves, then we live outside of the "original design" and we suffer from our sin and form the consequences of sin. When relationships struggle, emotions spike, minds race, and we get caught in a vicious cycle of destruction. 


"How should we be dealing with it?" I have a dear friend who deals with a lot of drama in her world and it becomes a significant stress producer in her life. What baffles me is that she will sit and watch these TV shows that are nothing but drama! I asked her about this once out of concern; certain that in watching these shows that it must only be adding to her plight. Why would someone who experiences so much drama in there own life want to see it lived out by others in mass overdose? Her response was, "It helps me to get my mind of of my own drama for a while." This statement struck me...I had never considered that it might be helping her deal with her own drama. The question remains...does it help?


Bottling up emotions or ignoring ones emotions are very destructive for one's emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual health (a statement derived from both common knowledge and personal experience). But pouring it all out on someone continuously isn't good either. First and foremost we have to realize our strength comes from God, and if we are truly to overcome we need to have the wisdom and strength of His Spirit. While I think that it's ok to pull away from drama from time to time to rest and refocus, it is also important that we learn to process our emotions and to communication open. 


START with yourself. Pray and ask yourself if you are somebody that produces drama. If so, why? Whats the root? Once you identify it, take it to God and seek Him. When you take things to God in humility and with a willingness to work, He will help make your faith complete by strengthening you and helping you with your problems. 


OTHERS might be the source of drama in your life. If they are family, well you pretty much have to live with it, but you have to learn to continue showing Christian character through love and patience (yes yes I know...easier said than done), and be sure to try to keep communicating. Express your feelings and confront family when they are going over board, just do it in love. If it is just someone you know, then you need to decide if your willing to put up with that before you let your friendship get to far. If you are willing to have a friend that produces drama...then God be with you, but don't you dare go into the relationship expecting them to change...it won't be healthy for wither of you. If you are already in too deep, be loving, patient, and try talking it out with your friend (say it with me) WITH LOVE. 


This was a long reflection, but I had a lot of thoughts on it that have been building up over the last few days. 


Peace be with you :]